“hold off, Is it a Date?” Podcast Episode 105: finest gender ever before | Autostraddle

The event topic this week is ideal Sex extremely we are writing on… the most effective intercourse we’ve had! We are accompanied by Autostraddle creator, poet, and journalist Dani Janae even as we get into some steamy stories accompanied by an in-depth conversation in what tends to make good intercourse good. Therefore fork out a lot of the time to my intimate hang ups that I may or may not have really completed many focus on come july 1st!

Come for the lesbian movie-themed online game, remain the coming.


PROGRAM NOTES

+
The 200 Greatest Lesbian+ Films list
that Christina pulled the game from.

+ For those who haven’t read Dani’s
Physiology of a Mango
show you really must.

+
This is basically the article
We had written concerning individual I explore on the episode. It is only been a couple of years but a great deal has changed!

+ the summertime has gone by and now we however stan Olivia Rodrigo. See the
“intense” songs movie
.



Dani:

The pet in addition to puppy happened to be inside space and there was cat and dog tresses every-where. And, I happened to be absolutely having an allergic response although we had been having sexual intercourse. Although orgasm had been like cook’s hug. It was the right, best knowledge actually.


Christina:

I wonder whether it’s something in regards to the hives that really added slightly

je ne sais quoi

compared to that orgasmic experience.


Theme tune performs


Drew:

Welcome to

Hold off, Is It a Date?


Christina:


Wait, So Is This a Date?

is an Autostraddle podcast exactly about, you thought it, matchmaking.


Drew:

Yay! I Enjoy matchmaking. I’m Drew Gregory. I am an author for Autostraddle, and a filmmaker, and merely common trans gay person across net and… I became going to state globe, but it is truly a lot more like L. A. and nyc.


Christina:

I like this globe trotting homosexual individuality you’re taking on here in 2021.


Drew:

I’d like that. Yeah, it is money for hard times.


Christina:

Yeah. Im your additional variety, Christina Tucker, additionally an author for Autostraddle, deranged deafening gay on the web. Merely form of away right here, authorship, being gay, carrying out whatever you can every minute to try to function with this existence that people’re residing.


Drew:

You are actually carrying it out. You’re really working through that life.


Christina:

Frankly, its all I am able to perform. That’s all You will find, it is the only option.


Drew:

I must say I have respect for the effort.


Christina:

The make an effort to live?


Drew:

Yeah.


Christina:

Yeah. Actually, actually fearless of us to actually try it. You’re not incorrect, you’re not wrong. Might you want to consider playing slightly video game these days, Drew?


Drew:

Oh my Jesus, I’m therefore excited. Cannot delay to see what you have for me.


Christina:

I am thus glad you mentioned that as you positively need say yes, for the reason that it’s part of this deal that people’ve developed right here. So you may know about the reality that on autostraddle.com, the internet site, we a summary of 200 lesbian flicks.


Drew:

I know of it. I may wrote it.


Christina:

You may have. The thing I have inked is pull a selection of 10 of those films. I’ve stored them to the best 50. I’ll give you the story keywords and phrases as determined by people on IMDb and you are browsing need to guess what movie truly.


Drew:

Okay. I just desire the listeners, anywhere you are, to find out that I am not saying probably pull up record. I do believe you got that right, am We making the assumption that’s correct in the way I is respecting the game?


Christina:

I think which is very polite and that I think’s fair. I also sorts of rely on that the is certainly going be something that pops into the mind quite easy for you, I didn’t go also left.


Drew:

You will find an awful memory, but yes, i’ll you will need to set people up for reduced objectives.


Christina:

Fair sufficient.


Drew:

So if i really do well, it is want style of hit all of them out, and if I don’t excel, they’ll be want, “Well, she mentioned…” Anyways, continue. Let’s start this.


Christina:

Let us beginning. I am going to begin with pretty basic types and I can get much more certain while we go, because a few of them tend to be practically exactly what the film is during two words. Therefore wewill make an effort to start out with a wider experience right here.


Drew:

I adore it.


Christina:

The very first movie: medicines is the very first plot word. New york, new york may be the next. Hate crime is the third.


Drew:

Okay.

It’s All-over Myself.


Christina:

Yes, its! See, we realized you would be able to do this.


Drew:

Great.


Christina:

We absolutely realized you would be capable of this.


Drew:

Additionally, i simply must allow individuals know that will be one of the most underrated lesbian motion pictures, and you also need to notice it. And Leisha Hailey in this movie has become my personal phone history for a couple of years now. So just an enjoyable small reality indeed there regarding of you.


Christina:

We like that. Okay, flick number two. “unidentified dad,” organ donor, cemetery, death of boy. Oh, she is thinking.


Drew:

I’m like I should seriously fully grasp this based on — delay, unfamiliar daddy, loss of child, body organ donor. Oh,

All About My Mother.


Christina:

There it’s, see.


Drew:

A different one of my personal favorites.


Christina:

It’s very exciting to see the things that folks decide tend to be a plot keyword that they need to draw because of these flicks. I am additionally perhaps not checking out any of the ones that are just lesbian because that seems similar to a gimme.


Drew:

That is how I developed most of the listing because if you appear up lesbian movies, that which you found ended up being the existing Autostraddle listing or some databases that aren’t very extensive, therefore I would really search through lists of this keywords of lesbian, lesbian kissing, this stuff like ladies kissing, these specific things, to find motion pictures in which they’re perhaps not looked at as a lesbian movie because they’re a bit more fascinating, or just a bit much less drive, and that’s the way I discovered a few of the motion pictures which are now about listing, therefore back to where it started.


Christina:

Tune in, IMDb keywords and phrases coming in convenient for everybody continuously. That one, people moved wild about this one. Very only going to read some haphazard words to you personally. Hey, whistling, lady, black recreations bra, lake, stomping out a cigarette, at work accident.


Drew:

At work crash? Oh, I Was Thinking I Experienced it after which, well—


Christina:

Icy, in parentheses, the heat.


Drew:

Because in the beginning I happened to be gonna say

Foxfire,

then again the working crash changed me upwards. At work crash.


Christina:

Would you like more?


Drew:

Yeah.


Christina:

Vehicle crashes through a fence.


Drew:

Is it

Miseducation of Cameron Post?


Christina:

It’s not.


Drew:

Because at work accident could well be a very terrible way of explaining that one with the gay since you’re trying to convert to not gayness, attempts to mutilate by themselves or really does mutilate by themselves. That’d end up being rather rigorous, but i did not understand together with the IMDb thinkers. Okay, hold off, this is tricking myself up.


Christina:

Are you wanting more from me personally?


Drew:

Truck through a fence. I’m certain it is something that I’m simply not… Yeah, continue.


Christina:

Reference to a college mortgage. They are therefore nuts.


Drew:

Hold off, have you ever seen this flick?


Christina:

I have come across this movie.


Drew:

Could it possibly be crazy that I’m not getting it?


Christina:

Its a little untamed. I can give you annually, if you prefer per year.


Drew:

Should you provide myself a year, We’ll undoubtedly have it.


Christina:

Okay. 2016 is your season.


Drew:

2016. Okay, tell me the goals.


Christina:

It’s the film,

Select Women,

2016.


Drew:

Oh! Yeah.


Christina:

I must say I believed pickup truck crashes through a fence would enable you to get, but I also just love these people only pulling-out nouns and just being like, “male.” Is the fact that how you feel?


Drew:

Yeah.


Christina:

Okay.


Drew:

That is a great film. I need to note that once more.


Christina:

Truly. It is the motion picture.


Drew:

Yeah, it’s an extremely great flick.


Christina:

Fine, the after that movie. Kissing whilst having gender.


Drew:

The greatest sorts of both, maybe, you might say.


Christina:

Seduction, dude ranch.


Drew:

Is-it

Desert Hearts?


Christina:

Yeah. Thus I ended up being like, “Okay, you got to get that from then on one.” Another one I happened to be likely to offer you had been — “nipples” was the truly prominently highlighted. And that I had been like, “Sure, that will be section of that movie.”


Drew:

Jesus,

Desert Hearts.

You probably know how absolutely every one of these irritating men and women available to choose from attempting to be Shane. Sorry, What i’m saying is, if you’re trying to end up being Shane, we take you. But me personally, my frustrating thing is I’m trying to be Cay. Cay for the reason that flick is similar to that will be which In my opinion of since method of lesbian that I would like to end up being.


Christina:

Yeah, that is correct, can verify. Fine, tend to be we ready for our then any?


Drew:

Yeah.


Christina:

Year—


Drew:

Wait, no, i’ve one more thing to state about

Desert Hearts.


Christina:

Positive.


Drew:

Following finally time we re-watched it within the summer, it kind of delivered me into a small spiral, and I texted this older semi-closeted individual who I experienced kind of begun tentatively willing to time or big date whatever, and who’d disappeared for four weeks, and I had abadndoned because Really don’t plead visitors to date me personally. But i recently was love, “Okay.” We saw

Desert Hearts

and that I ended up being similar, “i suppose perhaps sometimes folks have their own internalized whatever.” And I texted her and I also stated, “When we never ever satisfy, i do believe you are going to regret it.” And now we did meet, in order that’s what

Desert Hearts

may do for your requirements.


Christina:

Wow, that’s an extremely effective recommendation.


Drew:

We probably should never have fulfilled. We most likely will need to have merely allow it be. But anyways, moving on, subsequent motion picture.


Christina:

Our very own next film, metaphysics, world during beginning credits — exactly what meaning, it is for you to decide — highschool football, Chicago, Illinois.


Drew:

Oh,

Princess Cyd.


Christina:

There you choose to go.


Drew:

That is another great flick. I love that We hold becoming amazed from this listing that I had a tremendously strong submit ranking. It isn’t my personal ranking, but I did have a large proclaim inside the positioning and I like it.


Christina:

Yeah. I recently wish to be obvious for you and our audience — again, I picked from the top 50, therefore these are typically really good ones. With the great types, normally great types. I know Drewshould continuously say that is a fantastic flick after each and every one, but—


Drew:

They may be good flicks, all of you should see all of them.


Christina:

Okay. Quick dress with heels.


Drew:

Love it.


Christina:

Cock blocked, mini top with footwear.


Drew:

What i’m saying is, is it

Blockers?


Christina:

It is not. That could be too easy, I think, for

Blockers.


Drew:

I Do Not remember any miniskirts, but—


Christina:

Feminine rear nudity.


Drew:

Okay. Wait an additional. Okay, what an additional. Okay, penis blocked, mini top, female back nudity.


Christina:

more hints on M4M Hookup-hmm (affirmative). Break party.


Drew:

Would it be

Certain?


Christina:

It isn’t.


Drew:

No, i’d love some slack dancing scene.


Christina:

I adore a break dancing scene in

Bound.


Drew:

A break dancing scene.


Christina:

I’m going to provide you with: English lady abroad.


Drew:

English girl overseas? This is exactly a different one in which i’m we definitely should get it.


Christina:

I’m going to need offer you a pretty apparent one sooner or later, in order forwill help.


Drew:

Okay, provide me personally an evident one.


Christina:

Undercover representative.


Drew:

Is-it

D.E.B.S?


Christina:

It isn’t

D.E.B.S.

Its next to

D.E.B.S.,

style of film smart. Here’s someone else, intrigue.


Drew:

Okay, hold off, there is not that lots of genre movies.


Christina:

You can findn’t, that is correct.


Drew:

Undercover agent. Well, perhaps they’re by using the phase, could it be

The Handmaiden?


Christina:

It isn’t.


Drew:

Okay, I didn’t think-so. Undercover representative.


Christina:

Are you wanting your own season?


Drew:

I thought that… Positive.


Christina:

Your own year is 2017.


Drew:

Undercover agent.


Christina:

I am therefore sorry. You will feel very stupid when I state the name of your one.


Drew:

Oh no.


Christina:

I’m really sorry about this, but that is particular simply the means the cookie crumbles.


Drew:

Oh, its

Carol.


Christina:

No, it’s not

Carol.


Drew:

No, it says 2015.


Christina:

Yes, I’m Sure that. It is not

Carol.


Drew:

But there’s an undercover — the man, that’s where I happened to be considering. Okay, the facts? Why does it make me personally feel dumb?


Christina:

Its

Atomic Blonde,

you dummy.


Drew:

Oh, which is in the leading 50?


Christina:

Truly. I’m sure.


Drew:

Oh, okay.


Christina:

Fine. Offering four even more, you ready?


Drew:

I really don’t think that stupid for the reason that it one I… after all, i believe

Atomic Blonde

is actually fun, but I really don’t believe its fantastic. That could never be in my own individual top 50. I really do wish the world to understand that I’m sure that

Carol

was released in 2015. My personal head hurt. I simply desire the whole world to know that. Anyways, carry on.


Christina:

Society today understands that, the record is shown. All righty: cafe, feeling of scent, novelist, reference to a hamburger, mention of the Larry King, according to memoir, alcohol, theft, lady wears eyeglasses, living by yourself, ruining proof.


Drew:

The reference to Larry King is actually—


Christina:

It really is an extremely unusual one.


Drew:

Reference to Larry King, ruining proof.


Christina:

Cat.


Drew:

Oh, would it be

Can You Ever Forgive Me?


Christina:

Truly.


Drew:

I needed to redeem my self. I happened to be truly in a slump indeed there.


Christina:

You nailed it. In my opinion you got truth be told there, I believe you completely got truth be told there. Fine, three more, all of our leading three. I think these types are simple for you because I know you.


Drew:

Great, fine, really…


Christina:

I am aware, but i am stating, do you want?


Drew:

Okay, yeah.


Christina:

Mental health, medicine overdose.


Drew:

Would it be

Foxfire?


Christina:

No. Photographer.


Drew:

Oh,

Greater.


Christina:

There we get. Tattoo, woman gang.


Drew:

So is this

Foxfire?


Christina:

Yeah.


Drew:

Oh, I know

Foxfire.


Christina:

I became like, “Oh, she is going to just hold guessing

Foxfire

until i recently offer her

Foxfire.”


Drew:

The key is I love

Foxfire

and I keep wanting to think of

Foxfire.


Christina:

I mean, whomst in our midst?


Drew:

Angelina Jolie, gosh.


Christina:

Fine. This one, one is—


Drew:

This is actually the last one?


Christina:

This is actually the last one. This is our very own last one. Church, denial, family interactions.


Drew:

Is-it

Miseducation of Cameron Post?


Christina:

It is not.


Drew:

Will it be

But I’m a Cheerleader?


Christina:

Really, yes.


Drew:

Indeed. Comedic

Miseducation of Cameron Post.


Christina:

Jokes on laughs. To make sure that was the overall game i am contacting, How Well really does Drew Know Lesbian films???


Drew:

I like how great our company is coming up with labels for the games.


Christina:

Yeah, it’s actually mortifying that we actually had written that inside the name of a Bing Doc, that was we thinking? That does not actually look nice in my own Bing Docs.


Drew:

I got a great time and that I’m actually glad that I got to inform all listeners about all of the films they should watch. And we’ll place the list when you look at the program records.


Christina:

Definitely.


Drew:

I’d point out that record has grown to be at someplace where i believe you’ll get one thing off enjoying all 200 motion pictures. Initial version of the list, there is some things on the website that I found myself not too pleased with. There continues to be items that I think that I really don’t actually but i believe that as a whole, absolutely a specific quality control after that most recent up-date that personally i think happy with and that I think they truly are all well worth seeing.


Christina: